The Myth of Your 20s

There is a quote that is being posted, tweeted, quoted, liked and shared every time I turn around.

“Nothing will ruin your 20’s more than thinking you should have your life together already.”

I have very mixed feelings about this quote.  On one hand, it is reassuring.  I am 22 years old and I definitely don’t have my life figured out.  How do I know if I’m on the right career path?  How to make friends in a new state without the comforts of college bonding? How on earth do I file my taxes?  What’s a budget? How do people actually enjoy working out? HELP ME.

On the other hand, people always talk about how setting goals and making a choice everyday to be the best version of yourself that you can be.  I can still remember singing about character and being the “best that we can be” in an elementary school program.  Even the PreK students I work with talk about what they want to be when they grow up.   So I’ve been thinking.  What stops us from at least trying to have our lives together in our first years in the “real world?”   Is it being afraid of failing? The fear of the unknown?  The desire to be carefree children again?  Whatever the reason may be, I don’t think we as twenty-somethings have an excuse not to at least try our best every day we’ve been given.

So this year, 2015, I am pledging to do my best to be a real, functioning adult. I am setting goals, stepping outside my comfort zone, and seeing what being an adult is all about.  I’m sure I’ll face set backs and failures, but I don’t doubt that there are also lessons to be learned and successes to celebrate.  Will you join me?